"If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything."


Ever heard of this quote?

My mum taught me this since I was a little girl, especially since I am known for my viper tongue.

So, here I am, aged 20. And I have learnt this moral value.

But, apparently, there are a lot of people out there, who hasn’t.

I get some ‘haters’ comments on my instagram. And a lot more in the real world.

But what gets to me, is that woman in their 30s are these ‘haters’.

Someone commented on my photo, which was posted a few weeks back. Obviously she scrolled down on my instaprofile *cough*stalker*cough* Then she said that my style is horrible and bla bla bla...don’t really care.

What I do care is that she is in her 30s and she’s commenting hate comments. I really thought that only teenagers do that. Honestly. And all I could say when I saw her comment was, “Grow up.”

Next story:

A 30 year old, tells her colleague that she thinks that my marriage is a joke because we are (in her opinion) too young and too immature.

And her colleague is my friend’s mother. That’s how I heard about it.

Honey, The Husband and I may be young. And definitely immature. But you’ve got the wrong idea about marriage. You don’t become mature just to get married. You mature in time. And, news for you, marriage matures you. If you wait for you to be wise enough to get married, you’ll never be married, because you learn so much from the marriage itself. You grow with the marriage. With each other.

And I know you were at my solemnization in which the Tok Kadi had advised all men to marry their sons and daughters young. With marriage, you complete half your deen.

The hadith states:

Narrated by Anas ibn Malik: Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said, “Whomever Allah blesses with a righteous wife, He has helped him with half of his religion, so let him fear Allah with regard to the other half.”

**If you’re wondering of the authenticity of the hadeeth:
Al-Albaani, in Saheeh-al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheed (1916), “They are hasan li ghayrihi

And that’s it.

30 years old women, and what they say of me.


I shall leave this post with a Hadith and verse from the Quran, as a reminder for you and for myself. We are imperfect creations of Allah SWT as perfection belongs to Him. But we shall always strive to be a better person than we were yesterday.

It is reported on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) observed:
"He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should either utter good words or better keep silence;"
[Bukhari, Muslim, Ahmad, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah]

"O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers."
 [Al-Quran 49:11] (Translation from Sahih International)


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